Experiment #6: A Place for Everything and Everything in its Place

March 18, 2026 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

Let’s talk about this dream of mine. I’ve called this project “home assignments” because I’ve been trying to assign a home to each of our possessions, (and often to label the spots where they go) so it’s easy for people (usually me) to put things away. I start and stop and don’t finish.

I found a great article called “Everything in its Place, Finally and Forever” on a site called Raptitude. Reading about his 11 unexpected benefits, and in particular, the clearer mind, got me so inspired to finish this project. I’m already gathering up stuff that doesn’t have a home.

“I don’t want to own anything that I don’t use or don’t appreciate,” the author states. That sounds so simple. And he completes the experiment in one month, and gets rid of 80% of his things! Now, I realize that he’s a single guy, living in an apartment, which is completely different from my situation. So, maybe it’ll take me longer than 30 days, and maybe I’ll be lucky to get rid of 8% our things, but the results would be similar, right?

“I could hide messes, but the simple fact was that I had more stuff than I could care for. Most people do.” I hear you, brother.

Maybe… maybe… I could do an experiment just like he did. Maybe having a deadline would help me to focus.

Experiment #6:

“I resolve to get rid of everything I am not prepared to use and give a permanent place to in my home.” I’ll go room by room, closet by closet, drawer by drawer, shelf by shelf, and when I’m done everything will have a home. I will give myself until the end of April to complete this experiment. That will be in six weeks and one day.

I read in a book (I think The Joy of Less by Francine Jay) about dealing with clutter as if playing the game, Musical Chairs. (For the record, I’ve never liked that game. People can get pretty aggressive when trying to secure a seat. But we’re talking about clutter here, not people.) This idea gives me a lovely, easy-to-remember visual. Everything in my house should have a place, or a “chair” if you will. When the music stops, all you items lying around without a chair, you’re out!

Season of Renewal

March 11, 2026 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

Years ago, I read a book called Seasons of a Mother’s Heart by Sally Clarkson. I no longer own it, but I remember it being good for me at that time. I was a new homeschooling mom with small children. It had 12 chapters, beginning with a section called “Spring: A Season of Renewal”, and I would plan to read one chapter a month, and then I’d forget about it. It seemed I would pick it up again every spring, just when I was in need of a renewal of my spirit.

Today, while driving the truck through our neighborhood, and appreciating the blue sky, the sun shining, and the birds chirping; I thought to myself…. season of renewal.

It’s usually during the Church season of Lent that I turn back to practices that would be beneficial for me to never leave. This year is a little different. For Lent, I have continued much of what I had been doing already, with the exception of my recommitment to paring down possessions and reducing distractions. Here I am (no doubt) starting again.

In 2010, I had a blog called My Simple Spot. For one year, I wrote consistently about my adventures in simplifying. I recently read those posts and was surprised to find that I am following a similar pattern now, on a journey like I was on back then, although I’m not writing as frequently. I’m also not homeschooling my children anymore, or taking care of five people under the age of 13. And even more surprising…that year I was pregnant, had a miscarriage, and by the fall was pregnant again. So in comparison, my current endeavor should be a piece of cake, right?

I also have the benefit of learning from the experiences of my 16 years younger self. I’m reminded of things that work:

Stop buying unnecessary items
Practice the In/Out rule
Limit time online
Setting limits to reduce choices
Focus on your own stuff
Make hard decisions now
Detach and trust in God’s Providence
The 30 day list for purchase ideas
A place for everything

And some things that didn’t work:

Procrastinating starting
Procrastinating decisions
Procrastinating by reading and researching more and more methods
Turning to books instead of prayer
Giving up

What a great time of year to begin again!

Minimalism Revisited

February 11, 2026March 1, 2026 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

Did you know that I used to be an aspiring minimalist? It’s true.

I’ve got about 3000 more steps to go on this treadmill; so I’m going to tell you the whole story.

I think I had some minimalist tendencies when I was in my early 20’s. I refused to use a pocketbook (or a purse as I think people call them nowadays.) I would put my driver’s license and a credit card in my back pocket, my keys in my front pocket, and I was good to go. If I went to the beach, I brought a towel and a book. The first time my husband saw my apartment, he said, “Where’s all your stuff?” In my living room, I had a couch, a small TV on a stand, a VCR, and some cinder blocks with boards on them, holding a small book collection. I also had a bed, a dresser, a kitchen table and some chairs. I don’t know if I was actually a minimalist though. Maybe I was just afraid to spend money.

I remember the first time I decluttered. It was when I was very pregnant for my first child. I had bought a book called Totally Organized and I was determined to get there before the baby came out. There was a chapter called “The Art of Throwing Out”. After reading it, I did my first purge. I probably got rid of some clothing and kitchen stuff, but at the same time, in came all the new baby stuff.

For the next 10 years we accumulated. I may have been doing some decluttering throughout this time, but everything was replaced with more stuff. We moved from the apartment to our first home. There were birthday gifts and Christmas gifts and hand-me-downs and taking in other people’s donations. We bought furniture and lamps and decor. I started homeschooling, so I bought math manipulatives and books and curricula. While I was pregnant for baby number four, we built a home that was about three times as large as our first home. We moved when she was three months old and eventually added more furniture and decor.

In 2008, baby number five was born and I couldn’t handle the stuff management any longer. I forgot to mention, that in those 10 years I probably read about 40 books about simplifying. The current one was It’s All Too Much by Peter Walsh. The title was so appropriate. I did the biggest purge I had done up to that point. It was in 2009, that I first heard the word minimalism. I think my friend told me about a blog post explaining the concept, and I proceeded to read online as much as possible about it. It was then that I became an aspiring minimalist. I’ve tried most of the methods. Konmari made me want to replace my crappy old colander and clothes. I’ve done Project 333 and built capsule wardrobes. I’ve read about Swedish Death Cleaning… you get the picture.

So what happened? The stuff just kept coming in. Baby number six was born. I studied Happy Are You Poor by Thomas Dubay. I saw the biblical reasons for living with less. I continued to declutter regularly. Sometimes my kids would even help. Everyone has their own things that they are attached to. Some people like clothes, makeup and skin care products, some like Legos or DVD’s, or stuffed animals or electronics. Maybe a sheet music collection or hundreds of convention badges. My thing is books. I started to think that maybe it’s just good enough to keep things organized. And when we got the apartment in New York City; I completely gave up. Having two residences seemed to kill my dream of being a minimalist.

Then last week I received an email from Joshua Becker asking if I was interested in pre-ordering his new book, Uncluttered Faith. Sounded interesting. It came with a four week Uncluttered Faith Experience. OK! I received the book a couple of days ago and started reading it. The ideas are similar to the ones in Happy Are You Poor, with more of a focus on the benefits of minimalism, particularly the benefits to your faith.

I started to aspire once again. I actually have more time than I used to, maybe now is the time to do it. I’m thinking I’ll use a method I tried when I was organizing the basement last fall. (Didn’t finish.) It’s basically journaling and asking for God’s guidance for every decision, no matter how small.

So that’s what I’m planning to do. I’ll write about my progress here. I’m way over 11,000 steps now so it’s a good time to stop and get ready for bed.

Action Faking

March 3, 2024March 20, 2024 / Cheryl Wilcox / 1 Comment

This will be a post about procrastination.

A woman came running over to tell me that she was decluttering all the extra chairs that she took from her mom‘s house when her mom passed away a few months ago. She really didn’t need them. She had heard from my mother, about how I helped my mother get rid of the clutter in her home when she downsized. I told her honestly about how I keep decluttering the “downstairs”, which is what we call the first floor of our home. And how I never quite get around to the basement, which has piles of crap in it. The “upstairs”, or second floor, is mostly filled with stuff belonging to my children/young adults. Although, the school room contains a lot of my stuff too.

Today I was sorting through papers. I have these manila folders full of notes and PDF’s. I have a decluttering folder, an organizing time folder, an education folder… you get the idea. I’ve decided that I no longer need all of these notes. There was one paper that got me thinking while I was in the shower, which is one of the best places to think. It had notes about action faking, that were most likely from a YouTube video.

Action faking is procrastinating. It’s doing what we’re comfortable with and taking only the uncommitted actions. It does little to lead to actual progress.

Why are we action faking?

What are we trying to avoid?

Maybe there’s some kind of suffering attached?

Or not believing we’re capable?

This reminded me of the body transformation challenge that I am currently doing. Before I started, I was afraid. I wasn’t sure if I was capable of doing it. I talked about it with my father, who wondered if I would be able to finish it, and my mother, who was worried I’d lose too much weight, and my kids, who probably didn’t say much about it. When I told Bobby about the eight week challenge, he said, “Of course you could do that for seven weeks.” I corrected him by again telling him it was eight weeks, and he repeated, “Seven weeks is no problem.” (He’s my cheerleader.)

Well, it turned out, I started it two weeks early so now it’s a 10 week challenge and I’ve already finished seven weeks of it. It isn’t easy, but I’m not doing it alone. I know that God is helping me, because I keep asking him. I say things like, “Please help me to get through this next set.”

From my notes:

We may never feel completely ready.

Just take a step forward.

We can’t endlessly prepare if we want real results.

Decide what your first real action is, schedule it, and do it.

Avoidance creates the anxiety.

I’m not sure if all of that is true, but I know one thing, I am getting results in the challenge because I have been taking action.

I suspect this is why I haven’t been getting the results I want from my decluttering for the past 25 years. I’ve been just doing what I’m comfortable with, which is the downstairs. I’ve also been action faking/procrastinating by reading, watching YouTube videos, collecting notes on the subject… getting ready.

I had a college professor, who would say that if you read five books on a subject, you’re an expert. Well, I am an expert on simplifying, decluttering, minimalism, or whatever you would call it. I’ve probably read more than 40 books on the subject. I don’t believe that knowledge is power. It may give me some advantage, but without action directed toward my goal, I’m not gonna get there.

I believe prayer is powerful. God supplies the power. I’m going to pray that I will stop getting ready and start taking action. My first step is going to be getting rid of some of these action faking papers. I know what to do.

Experiment #1 Results

August 9, 2020 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

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Here is where I’ll tell you what I learned from Experiment #1: Downsizing Eyes.

The Experiment

Imagine you are moving into a tiny one bedroom home next week. It has a small living room, kitchen, bathroom, and very little extra storage. What would you take with you? What are your favorite things? What do you use all the time? What is most important?

What I Did

I made a list of all of the areas in my home that hold items I use and/or own. I did not include my children’s bedrooms, my husband’s study, or the shed in our yard.
In each area, I examined the items found there and thought about what I would do with each one (in the experiment scenario). Would I take it with me? Should I declutter it right now?
I got rid of 8 useless items and a 1 inch stack of paper.
I took notes about what I got rid of, and what items I would want to take with me.
I analyzed my notes taking frequency of use into account.

What I Learned

I’m almost a minimalist! I realized that most of the items in my home do not belong to me. And many of the items that belong to my husband and me, I would let go of when we downsized. I think the reason I don’t want to call myself a “minimalist” quite yet is because there are two areas in my home that I haven’t “finished” yet. They are the basement, (where I’ll be asking my husband and my kids if they are ready to part with their stuff) and two shelves in the school room closet that contain photographs and memorabilia. Once I finish decluttering those two areas I’ll be there.
I really don’t need many possessions. I think glasses and contact lenses would actually be my most important items. Living without those would be very difficult. The next most important items would be the ones I use daily and weekly. These are toiletries, clothing, appliances, tools, some furniture and kitchenware, journals, books, my iphone, cleaning supplies, office supplies, my money belt, laptop, and van.
I discovered what items are important to me. Although I could live without all of these, I am happy to have DVD’s, slideshows, and scrapbooks of my family. I love that I have the crucifix that used to hang above my grandparents’ bed, and a few items that were meaningful to them. I also love certain framed prints hanging on my walls and books sitting on my shelves even though I know that they are replaceable.
The way I see my home has changed. As I knew before I started, this experiment didn’t help me to get rid of any of my husband or my children’s possessions. I have often felt overwhelmed by the amount of stuff in our home. It felt like I was always trying to catch up and I was always going to be behind. I think this has helped me to see reality more clearly. I can easily take care of my own stuff. I can set boundaries and my family members can take care of their own stuff. I am also reminded by my mother’s experience, that this is only a season in my life. I am grateful that I still have the presence of these wonderful people in our home.
I can focus on maintenance. (That is, after I go through my last two areas.) I have a tendency to procrastinate dealing with paperwork. I can focus on keeping up with the paper coming in and not allowing my kitchen desk to accumulate clutter. I can work with my family on the habit of putting items back into their homes. When we do our regular kitchen, bathroom and laundry chores, the house looks good. If we add in tidying up our own stuff once or twice a day, then it will look even better.

In Conclusion

I plan to set aside time to work on the last two areas. I’ll be calling myself a minimalist by the end of 2020! I will also get the whole family involved in consistently taking care of our home and possessions. Maybe that will be one of my next experiments.

Experiment #1: Downsizing Eyes

May 24, 2020April 7, 2021 / Cheryl Wilcox / 1 Comment

6BBC3B66-1EB1-4505-9FD3-E088D48A7849 My step father passed away on December 27, 2019. He and my mother had lived together for thirty years. They weren’t pack rats, and they were fairly organized and clean. For the past few months I’ve watched (and sometimes helped) my mother give away and throw away their possessions in order to downsize. I helped my mother buy a one bedroom condo, which is closer in proximity to my sister and me. Then two weeks ago, we helped her move the possessions she wanted to keep into the new condo. Last weekend, she decided she wanted to put her house on the market by the end of the week, and yesterday it was listed.

For five days we spring cleaned, painted, posted items on the “letgo” app, gave items to their new owners, and filled up a 15 yard dumpster. Then on the sixth and seventh days, I rested. Today, I’m thinking about the whole experience.

Letting go of a home you lived in for forty years as you grieve the loss of your spouse is my mother’s story. Saying good-bye to my childhood home and remembering my step father and my grandparents, who also have passed away, and who were a big part of my life back then, is my story; but not where I’m going with this today. I’m pondering the downsizing of material possessions.

Those who know me well, know that this is a big topic of interest for me. Decluttering, purging stuff, minimalism, voluntary poverty, and downsizing… they are all related in my mind. And now I have this fresh, first-hand experience (not my own) of answering the questions: What do I want? What do I need? What am I willing to let go of?

It’s hard not to notice the fact that I will one day go through this downsizing myself, or if I die first, my family will be throwing out and giving away my possessions. So why am I keeping things that I do not use on a regular basis? It motivates me to do another pass through my home with the eyes of a downsizer.

Experiment #1:

This will not help me to get rid of any of my husband’s or my children’s belongings. And I will, of course, need to keep many extra articles of furniture and shared items in the common areas. But let’s see how this experiment will affect my own stash of personal belongings. Results will be the subject of a future post.

Room Tours: The Living Room

May 15, 2020 / Cheryl Wilcox / 1 Comment

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This is the third entry in my Room Tours category. Our living room was always one of the most used rooms in the house, but I think Covid 19 has pushed it into the number one spot. We are in here to watch morning Mass, do school subjects, read, play games, watch movies, binge shows on Netflix, sit and talk, nap, go on electronics, and more.

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Sarah plays the piano in here, and much of her sheet music is stored near her piano (the rest is stored in the dining room). A circle of fifths print is the wall hanging shown above. I like it because it’s practical and neutral colored. We keep headphones and chargers in the loveseat console. We store DVD’s and Wii U games and accessories in the TV cabinet.

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The rest of our DVD’s are stored on a bookshelf in the nearby foyer closet.

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The living room is open to the dining room.

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On movie nights, we turn the loveseat and the chairs to face the TV, and so everyone can recline with their legs up. It’s super comfy! I even moved a chair right in front of the TV when I watched Parasite, so I could read the subtitles more easily.

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We store remote controls and chargers in the end table on the left, and in the right one are kindles and guess what? More chargers!

I think the “Order” print above the sofa is beautiful and I feel a sense of peace when I look at it. My kids don’t agree, and Joseph continually teases me with ideas of things we could hang to replace it.

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The room doesn’t usually look like this, as you can imagine, but everything has a place in here, so it doesn’t take long to tidy it up. Everyone just has pick up their own dishes, books, papers, socks, games, blankets, dolls, laptops, iPads, hair ties, and yes, chargers!

Why Haven’t I Finished Yet?

July 23, 2019 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

I have been decluttering ever since I moved out of my Mom’s house around thirty years ago. I found out letting go of possessions was a thing about ten years later. And I have been an aspiring minimalist since I first heard the word “minimalist” about ten years ago. So why can’t I get through my whole house and be done with it?

I realize that I will not actually finish, as in never having to declutter my home again. I expect to go through all of the rooms, annually perhaps, to remove those items we didn’t end up using much, or maybe things we are finally ready to let go of now that another year has passed. What I am really asking is: why can’t I get through the whole house?

I know I am repeating areas previously finished again and again, getting sidetracked with other projects, watching lots of movies, taking care of my family and basically, living life. But is there a reason why I can’t seem to finish? Is it not a priority? Am I afraid to finish? Am I procrastinating because it’s hard work? What’s the deal?

Here is where I am currently perceiving myself to be with this project.

These areas are finished:

The van
the living room
the dining room
the master bedroom
my clothing
Bobby’s clothing
Sarah’s clothing
Sarah’s room
the foyer
the linen closet
the master bathroom
the upstairs bathroom
the laundry room
the kitchen
the pantry
the utility closet

These areas were finished (maybe last year), but need to be gone through again:

the girls’ room
Joseph’s room
Joseph’s clothing
Rachel’s clothing
Hannah’s clothing
Mary’s clothing
the mudroom
the extra closet
my kitchen desk
the schoolroom

These are the areas that have never been finished:

the basement
the garage
the sentimental items
the digital items

These are areas I do not include in this project at all:

the study
the shed

Looking at this list sheds some light on why I haven’t finished yet. That’s a lot of areas!!! Is it even possible to be a minimalist and be responsible for all of these areas? I don’t know. But I do think I see the light at the end of the tunnel. It doesn’t take much time to go through the repeat areas. Then, there are only four main problem areas and sentimental is almost decluttered, so that leaves three that I think are doable with a little laser focus. I can do this!

Dear Stuff

October 29, 2018October 30, 2018 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

I found this letter that I wrote (maybe two years ago), prompted by a blog post on Be More with Less called “How to Write a Break-up Letter to Your Stuff”. It was written quickly and without revision, but today I am appreciating the analogy.

Dear Stuff,

I am making a commitment to only be with stuff that serves a good purpose or leads me closer to God. I believe that this is how God wants me to relate to things. I’m liking the idea of seeing material possessions as tools. They help me to do God’s will. Like school supplies and curriculum help me to educate my children. Pots and pans are tools to cook with. My crucifix reminds me of Jesus.

I’m writing to tell you that you are not good for me anymore. I don’t need you; you do not cause me joy. Some of you I did need in the past. You were tools at one time, and you served your purpose well. but my life has changed, and I no longer need your help. Others of you, I don’t even know why I have you around. I never used you for anything. Maybe you were given to me and I said thank you to the giver because I love them and didn’t want to say no. Maybe I purchased you when I was afraid. You made me feel better. From you I am learning to have a criteria for future purchases. To ask if I really need it. What purpose will it serve? Can I do without it?

I am determined to live a well-ordered life. I am working my butt off this summer to go through everything and keep only the tools God wants me to use and to let go of my attachments to you all.

I have trouble letting go of some of you. I’d like to keep you just in case I’ll use you again in the future. But this is not what God teaches.

He wants me to live in the present and serve Him, love Him and pray unceasingly to Him. He does not want me to worry about tomorrow. He says it in the Bible. He will provide for me always. I really need to trust Him completely and let you go.

I did not sign my letter. It was anonymous. And because I like to linger over ideas… How about a list of questions to ask when decluttering, based on the ideas found in this letter?

Does this serve a good purpose or lead me closer to God?
Why do I have this?
Is this a tool I used in the past, but don’t need anymore? Let it go.
Have I never used this? Let it go.
Was this a gift? Did I thank the giver? Let it go.
Did someone give it to me and I didn’t want to say no? Let it go.
Did I purchase this when I was afraid? Let it go.

Questions to ask before a new purchase:

Do I really need this?
What purpose will it serve?
Can I do without it?

Remember: Live in the present. Love, serve and pray all day. Do not worry about tomorrow. God will provide for you always. Trust him completely and let it go.

DECLUTTERING QUESTIONS 30 DAY LIST

Weekend Retreats

October 15, 2018October 29, 2018 / Cheryl Wilcox / Leave a comment

I’ve been away from my home for the past three weekends. First, I attended a women’s silent Ignatian Spiritual Exercises retreat, then on Columbus Day weekend, I spent time with extended family in Bailey Island, ME. This past Saturday, I was at a Schole Sister’s local retreat called Learning Well, with Cindy Rollins! So on Sunday, I reflected on some of the ideas I’ve taken in, made a practical plan of how I will implement my retreat resolutions, and I chose the books I plan to read in the next few weeks.

I’m toying with the idea of playing the Minimalism Game for the rest of October and for the month of November, as progress on my decluttering checklist has decreased. I did play the game for five days before my first retreat and I got rid of 114 items from my basement.

I also printed out a time log I found online, because it’s a super fun way to see how I’m spending my time, and it’s helpful when implementing new habits to see if they are realistic or not. And speaking of habits… I also printed out a new habit tracker. I created it for a 21 day period, with boxes to check off or shade for each habit, each of the 21 days. I type my habits in the left column and fill in days of the week and dates along the top. A blank one is shown below.

Peace!